Love me, Love me not

Everyone wants to find love in the arms of another. But why is it in these days that people tend to be so insecure once they started to fall in love, giving tidal wave of negative thoughts, feelings, emotions and whatnots, and began to imagine a lot of other negative stuff on the other.

Although rationally there is nothing wrong with both of them but somehow one are just feeling so insecure of being hurt, betrayed or etc. Most people started to feel insecure whenever their partner mingles around the opposite gender, etc... They will question trust and emphasize more on trust and love whenever possible.

I wonder how do you make the other party feel secure in love or how do you make yourself secure in love? Is it by the constant need of assurance from the 3 lovely words by your partner or is it by the constant emphasizing of trust in everything both of you does? Do you need a lot of constant assurance verbally to make you feel secure of his/her feelings towards you? Do you need a lot of constant assurance verbally to make sure that the other understands the word trust in a relationship? Or perhaps knowing it in your heart is enough? Or have you tell your partner enough to assure him/her?

Personally i think if we love someone, and considering that the fact that there's not much adjective for love, we should show it through our actions. In this way, the other party will be able to feel our love and feel secured. Security is also leveled up with trust and always opening up to talk and share; viewing things together and not just pointing fingers to talk on the issue but not on the people.

I prefer my partner to be there for me when i need him and it gives me security. To ask how's my day, etc.. Saying that he loves me. i agree that this will give me security.. but sacrificing and pouring out time for me will make me know that i am important to him and he treasures me, so i feel secured.

If its just one party who always says " i love u" is also of a no use as it takes 2 to tango. We need both hands to clap.