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what ever you like
what ever you lik
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the biggest "winner"?

Nobody wants a breakup if in the first place they are out to built a relationship. And "calling it off" during a quarrel or argument doesn't win a situation but sore it further. Ppl get carried away during a quarrel. Knowing that they're in the upper hand, 'breaking up' would be a good way of threatening the other party to back off n not argue further. But little do they know that it's a selfish act that cause hurts to the other party. Making them feel so unappreciated and the r/s seems like nothing to the person who initiate the breakup.

Yes, I used to be the childish person who wanted a breakup everytime there's a quarrel. I know I will win. Whatever wrong I done, I'll still win. On the surface I did won. But I lose more than I won. I lost my bf confidence, I lost my own conscience, I lost any lesson that came along, most of all, I lost to myself. Not being able to face my own mistakes, acting like a coward and initiate the breakup.

I remember hearing this from someone, ' you might win from the argument, but ask yourself, you think you're the one who ultimately win? In actual fact, you lost, because you fight your way through to fight for your 'right', while the other partner give in to you, considering your feelings.

I know why some people have this false sense of glorification when they are the ones initiating breakups. Seems like at the end of the day, they are the real losers of the situation, losing their partners, as well as their confidence.

:(

Why would my boyfriend accused me of cheating? I honestly, would never cheat on him with another guy. We been dating for a year and I haven't ever been unfaithful to him. He accused me of cheating saying he has all the facts of what I did that involves cheating. Why is he acting like this? This is making me sad and hurt. I don't know what I should do.

Cliff, i never knew you would think i am playing games with you. You ended this relationship so easily. I have never cheated on you. And as you move on, I hope you will remember me, remember us and all we used to be. I've seen you cry, I've seen you smile. I´ll never forget you my lover, i hope you never forget me.

All the best to you.

12 September, 18.06:42

White lies- Is it OK to lie to a person we care about for a kind reason, like to make him feel better and more secure, or to avoid a fight. As long as our heart is in the right place, even experts say that honesty isn't always required. You don't have to tell the whole truth if it will hurt your partner or if it's something he can't change. At the same time, not all lies are harmless even little white ones and some untruths can tear apart a relationship by damaging intimacy and trust. The worst kinds of lies result from trying to change who we really are or to minimize a serious problem in a relationship.

I got to know a friend from Facebook with whom i sometimes communicate. My partner happened to see our interactions -- and didn't like what he saw. But I know my exchanges don't mean anything, so they're not worth discussing. And one day, he came over to Singapore for a holiday and he wanted to meet me up for dinner. I do not know how to tell my partner and I told my partner a white lie. I know its vital to be honest and truthful but I know my partner wont be able to handle it and at the same time, I do not want to make my partner sad.

And I have a lil apprehensive of meeting him for dinner because i need to find a bed for my grandma as she had fallen off from the bed and i need to get a new bed for her. But cant find one then decided to meet my fren for dinner. And because of that, he broke the relationship with me And said I am two timing him. Accusing that I love him and stuffs. Honest to god, i didnt have any sexual relationships with this guy. It was just a dinner meeting, dats all.. Being accused like this is not a nice feeling.

Unfortunately, there are no guarantees that we won’t be hurt in relationships. It is a chance that we all take. I do not know what to say anymore and do. I have sacrificed alot for my partner, and maybe he didnt notice that. Anyways, the truth will prevails eventually. People can just say "move on" but.. it is so much easier said than done.

R.E.S.P.E.C.T

I was queuing up for Kentucky just now when the lady infront of me got very frustrated with the service staff and started shouting at her.

I think the staff is rather new and seems quite blur. The lady ordered a set meal which comes with a coleslaw and a mashed potato. But she told the staff that she doesn’t want the coleslaw and wanted a mashed potato instead. But the staff forgotten about it and placed the coleslaw into her take away box. The lady was so pissed off that she started scolding the staff. It was so bad that the manager have to step in and remove the coleslaw from the box.

Eeerr….. but excuse me. But it’s just a bloody coleslaw. If the staff forgets your special request, just remind her nicely. There is no need to scold a service staff over such small matters. In fact, there isn’t any need to scold a service staff. If they do anything wrongly, just tell them nicely and they will fix it. They are human afterall. Respect them.

Sigh. Why do some people behave like they are the king/queen just because they are paying customers? I really feel sorry for the service staff...

Artificially rich bastards

I reckon Singaporeans have a very lop-sided conception of what rich and poor are. Just the other day i was having my breakkie and overheard this woman in a clearly very expensive dress talking to her son. I overheard her telling the child, "look at this poor man. That’s what’s going to happen to you if you don’t study hard." She was actually talking about this young man that clears all the plates in the food court.

But cleaners aren’t necessary poor. Many are, certainly, but some get by just fine. I think it’s arrogant and overly presumptuous to label them all “poor”. The problem with Singaporeans is that they’re not really interested in affluence per se, but the symbols of affluence. Singaporeans don’t measure affluence by how much you earn, but how much you spend. Consequently, Singaporeans (young ones especially) seem to be spending more and more, without any significant rise in income to back them up. Frankly, i’m sick and tired of this obscene materialism.

Apparently, most young Singaporeans define success the exact same way, which is the exact same special way, which is but having lots of money, and a lifestyle to show for it. My advice - You don’t stay young and energetic forever. The only old people who age happily are the ones who have long given up being driven, and focus instead on living.

The driven ones run out of fuel much faster. Ironically, they need all the money they earn, to pay for foster care, because their kids abandon them and all the good food they’ve eaten has gotten to their heart and they need constant medical support.

Bloody Singaporeans!

Mixed Emotions

Am in a very very bad mood lately. Lots of things happening which is making me very depressed. Yet I cannot find a place to vent them out. Not even on this blog.

Just feel like staying in bed for the whole day. In the past, I could have done that by applying a couple days of leave. But now, I don’t have the options to do that. Lots of things needs my attention. Lots of meeting need to be attend. Can’t afford to hide myself under the blanket.

And the worst thing is that I need to pretend that everything is alright when things aren’t. Putting up a happy front and covering up the emotions deep inside. It’s tough. But I know I shouldn’t mix work with personal stuff.

Perhaps I should just forget about my personal stuff and concentrate on work. Maybe keeping myself busy at work can help me forget about the personal issues.

Sigh.......

Stop nudging me!

Do you have a list of things that will piss you off? I have. There are a couple of little things in life that piss me off. Maybe I’ll list down all of them 1 day.

Anyway, there is 1 thing that people like to do that never fail to piss me off. Sending me a nudge in MSN. Or rather sending me a nudge first thing he/she sees me on MSN. Even before sending me a msg or anything. And I’m at my computer when they nudge me.

Sometimes, i’m fine with it. But when someone over-done it, you get pissed off easily. There are times when you are listening to MP3 or watching video and turning the computer volume up to try to catch the words. Then this irritating noise comes along. And there are times when you are in a foul mood and the last thing you want people to do is to nudge you for no reason.

There is a purpose for nudge. Nudge is to alert the person when he didn’t reply your msg. It is not a greeting. Its rude. Its like pressing the car horn at people. (BTW, I hate it when people horn at me too.) I told them many times that I hate it when they does that. But people still continue to do it. Everytime…. Urrghhhh!

Happy 26th birthday!

As you all have probably seen by now, I haven’t exactly been updating my thoughts or movements in my life. Its not that I’ve been staying at home everyday with nothing to write, nothing could be further from the truth.

In fact, I’ve been so busy going out and catching up with friends, working and other activities and so on that I may have neglected my blog a little. Which is not to say I haven’t tried. Its weird to say that the last few times I tried to write anything serious, it turned out to be written in a pretty condescending tone and that is not exactly what I wanted to portray, so its been saved under drafts.

As you all know, its my birthday and my colleagues actually bought a cake and surprised me. I was really not expecting it, but I think the surprise didn’t really manifest in my face. Heh, it felt weird to be cutting a cake again.

Someone asked me, “How does it feel to be 26?”.
I thought for a while before answering, “I feel wiser”.

And that is the truth. Just a year ago things have been very different for me (perhaps, more in my mind than in my current status), and I’ve truly seen and experienced a lot more this year than in the years past. To state all the things that has made it so significant would be near impossible, but suffice to say certain happenings really changed my perspective on life, amongst others.

I was told to make a birthday wish before blowing out the candles. I actually had to take a few minutes to do it because I really couldn’t think of what I wanted in life for now, or what exactly it was I lacked. A year ago (and the year before, and before, and before) I would wish for good results, and/or someone to love, or something to that effect.

Today, I wished to live everyday happy.

The 1st cut is the deepest?

Hmmmm..... Is the first cut the deepest? The first love of your life, the first heartbreak, the first time being rejected? Everyone has to go though it. The first cut into your heart. It's a known fact that everyone is going to get their heart broken at some point in their life. It's a harsh fact to deal with because no one really wants to be heartbroken right?

A girl and a boy can fall in love but, what happens when all the slushy things like holding hands, hugging, and candle lit dinners end? This is where it gets heart breaking. So is the first cut really the deepest? Well I can only say that your first love, your first kiss, will always be with that special someone in your heart. Even if you have broken up, you will become stronger as a person and be able to face the next lucky person to walk into your life. Just my 2 cents...

materialistic world?

Truth be told, I don’t live the simplest of lifestyles. But I don’t place a lot of importance on the material stuff that I do have; I’m not attached to it. I can enjoy it when it’s here, and yet not mourn over it if ever goes. I think it’s perfectly fine to live in abundance - so long as we don’t define ourselves by the abundance in which we live.

Many of us secretly believe that we’d be happier if we made more money. I can guarantee otherwise: If you’re miserable poor, you’ll be miserable rich. Perhaps even more miserable. Your base level of happiness isn’t determined by the wealth you’re able to amass or the amount of “things” you’re able to collect.

At best, material things can give us a temporary high. It’s like taking a drug. But the high is always short and the crash is always hard as we return back to our base level of happiness. Moreover, true happiness can’t be dependent on anything outside of us as the entire world is transient and changing. If you base your happiness on something that is bound to change, you’ll live your life in fear of losing it.

To truly be happier, I think each of us must follow our heart.

All for one, one for all

I know someone who graduated from one of the TOP 10 universities in the world, and she thinks she is all that and a bag of chips because of this fact. She can't get THE job she wants after trying for over 2 months to get a job. So, obviously, where one gets a degree means nothing, necessarily. She turned down 2 jobs because she thinks she is too good for them, and yet complains on facebook about having no job.

I know a lot of people who want to get into good universities, have a false sense in believing that these universities will get them a good job. Sometimes they do, but often times they don't. I read a article once saying that it doesn't matter where one goes to school, because most will start out with the same salary caps, and it doesn't matter if that person went to MIT, Havard, Oxford.

I think going to whatever school should never give you a sense of entitlement. Good jobs go to good, hardworking people, not self-obsessed bubbleheads who are too in love with the coat of arms on their degree to realize they're not the center of the universe.

However, in retrospect, going to a good school does improve your chances of getting employed, simply because employers know students coming out of those schools have well-developed skill sets that they can utilize right away. Hmmm.. Am i contradicting? hahahaa!

Branded goods

I am beginning to think people view their clothes as an extension of themselves and their personality - so if they buy expensive, branded clothes, they think others will reflect on their choice as the individual being of high value.

Designer clothes with obvious logo's emblazoned across them come across as tacky and trashy, but people will buy them as they think that the more obvious the designer, the more people will look at them and think 'wow, classy' when in reality it's normally 'urgh, chavvy'. Quite often the people who buy obvious designer products are lacking in imagination and have more money than sense - it takes creativity to throw together a unique and stylish streetwear outfit that looks pricey.

To be fair, a lot of people buy branded goods for their quality, reputation and sometimes unique style. But mostly it all boils down to 'mine cost more so it's better than yours' and the ego behind it. I base my purchases on design, value, and functionality, and if that is why someone chooses to buy a branded item then that's fair enough. People who aspire to be more celebrity-like often buy branded clothing for the sake of it (and lack of imagination/or style), whereas the celebrity buys it because money is no option to them - therefore the more expensive, the better.

Don u think so?

Casual sex

A friend of mine asked me the other day:
"Does having casual sex, without being a relationship with someone mean that you don't respect yourself?"

Well, i would say that it's a stereotype. Women are sluts and men are players. I can't really answer her because it's really one of those double standards set by society. I personally think that you should at least stick to one person. There are diseases out there...but hey that's your call not mine.

Causal sex can denote a self esteem problem, however, that is not always the case. Again, it's one of those things that has to be addressed on an individual basis. Some girls with low self esteem give it up for free b/c it makes them feel needed/wanted/attractive. As long as you understand your motive for doing this, then you should be fine. It's those people who convince themselves that they are doing this for another purpose that have serious problems.

As for why men think women lack self respect if they have sex without commitment, its b/c men are use to playing the 'game'. Most men say they want sex...but most will never marry a girl who gives it up easily. When most men think of a wife, they think of a wholesome individual to mother their children, someone respectable - not someone who's been around the block. These men will not respect you, hence they assume that you don't respect yourself. I'm not sure how else to explain it.

Overall, I think that its disgusting, giving your body to someone who is just using it for their selfish pleasure and who doesn't give two sh*ts about you. I don't look down on them, I'm just disappointed by them because I know that they're not truly happy with themselves.

Hmmm...

Halo

I listened to Beyonce's " HALO" recently and i swear to God, i really love the song. It has a very deep deep meaning. I reckon not many can interpret the message behind the lyrics of this song but in my opinion, it's not about God - although I would've loved it to be about Him - and if it relates to you in that way, then take it as such.

This is a girl (or guy) who has been hurt enough to build walls around him/her. She/he doesn't trust her relationships, so when this person meets this "someone" - she/he is very "cautious" at first.

This person even tries to "test" this person to see if they are for real.

Its like Ive been awakened
Every rule I had you breakin
Its the risk that im takin

You know how sometimes people do that "game" to test others to see if they're really sincere. Trust issue. Perhaps Beyonce's character pushed this guy over the edge to see if he would still be committed? Sometimes that's risky - because you don't know if they'll stay committed, but she tested him because she simply had to know for sure. It's a foolish way to be secure, but that's what it meant.

However, this person came to some point in his/her life and they are convince that this special "someone" is indeed the real thing! And the "halo" revelation is that she finally sees that he's a good man! Thus, in the first verse, all her guard is let down without a fight, she trust him.

So with that understanding, I think the rest is self explanatory. :)

Good job Beyonce! Love ya!

If you think my interpretaion is wrong, pls correct me. :)

Sex

Over the years and months I've realized, as I've seen the relationships of close friends fail time and again, that good, solid, long term relationships are not based on sex; in fact, it's those relationships that are heavily based on sex that usually don't wind up making it for very long. That's because that while sex is an important part of a relationship, in the end it's how you navigate the bad times that really define how strong your relationship is.


Too many people are willing to bail when bad times happen because it's easy to fix with a legal procedure and piece of paper, and sex is readily available elsewhere. In fact, over time if your relationship is based heavily on sex, the boredom factor alone tends to lead people to cheat or split up, because they have no other solid foundation.

In my opinion, sex is an important part of a relationship but if it is or becomes the most important aspect then there is no ''real'' relationship. It can be the ultimate expression of love between two people, a way to communicate feelings that are difficult to express in words. Sex helps build closeness and intimacy, relieves stress, gives comfort. Sex differentiates a romantic relationship from a platonic relationship.

Love and sex are not the same thing; this is something some people never learn. Sex without love is just physical. Love without sex can be pure, spiritual and true. But sex with someone you love unequivocally, can be gentle and tender, hot and wild, comfortable or simply sublime.

And don't ever forget that the most important sexual organ is the brain. So, the next time, you don't get enough sex from your partner, heed my advice. Sex is not everything in a relationship. Nup, i am not complaining if i don't get enough sex from my partner. :)

Fixing a broken heart

Sometimes, I don't understand life. . . especially my life. Why do i always end up feeling sad, heartbroken. What have i done to deserve all these? No one understands or knows what i went thru all these years. I dont mean to whinge here.

I've realized that love is never be a part of my fate. Today i had a bad day. In fact, i feel utterly dissapointed with that kind of attitude. Excuse me as I wipe the tears from my face and attempt to catch my breath . . . I feel as if I've been punched. Do you really doubt me, my love?

No relationship is a failure, a waste of time & love. Each relationship in its own right shows us more & more of who we are and that's a magical discovery. I made up my mind to not think about it any more tonight... to let it go.

25 Mar 2009

I have been misunderstood perhaps more than anyone else ever, but it has not affected me, for the simple reason that there is no desire to be understood. It is their problem if they don't understand, it is not my problem. If they misunderstand, it is their problem and their misery. I am not going to waste my sleep because millions of people are misunderstanding me.

Hardest words, not?

A lot of people have a hard time just saying the word "sorry" even if it's obviously their fault. Now, imagine if it wasn't your fault, would you be able to say "sorry"? Would you apologize for something even if it meant swallowing your pride? Or would you let err... "nature" run its course?

People who do apologize say that they do so because they just want the "fight" to be over and done with. Not apologizing would drag the fight longer. As for me, I would not hesitate in apologising even if it was not my fault, if it meant that i could end an argument, fight or even get rid of some element of doubt or mistrust. If that relationship mean a lot to me, I will never let it go. In that case I don't mind saying sorry.

Words that can kill

How often that there are certain thoughts that you would like to bring across, yet unable to do so due to certain circumstances? How often you hold back saying out your thoughts for the fear of affecting the other party? How often thoughts are being hold back from being saying out loud?How often thoughts are being kept inside because of the lacking of the appropriate words to use?

I had been in those situations too many times... Too many times, I hold back a lot of stuff that I wanted to share... For the fear of affecting others... Especially the fear of hurting them with my words...