White lies- Is it OK to lie to a person we care about for a kind reason, like to make him feel better and more secure, or to avoid a fight. As long as our heart is in the right place, even experts say that honesty isn't always required. You don't have to tell the whole truth if it will hurt your partner or if it's something he can't change. At the same time, not all lies are harmless even little white ones and some untruths can tear apart a relationship by damaging intimacy and trust. The worst kinds of lies result from trying to change who we really are or to minimize a serious problem in a relationship.
I got to know a friend from Facebook with whom i sometimes communicate. My partner happened to see our interactions -- and didn't like what he saw. But I know my exchanges don't mean anything, so they're not worth discussing. And one day, he came over to Singapore for a holiday and he wanted to meet me up for dinner. I do not know how to tell my partner and I told my partner a white lie. I know its vital to be honest and truthful but I know my partner wont be able to handle it and at the same time, I do not want to make my partner sad.
And I have a lil apprehensive of meeting him for dinner because i need to find a bed for my grandma as she had fallen off from the bed and i need to get a new bed for her. But cant find one then decided to meet my fren for dinner. And because of that, he broke the relationship with me And said I am two timing him. Accusing that I love him and stuffs. Honest to god, i didnt have any sexual relationships with this guy. It was just a dinner meeting, dats all.. Being accused like this is not a nice feeling.
Unfortunately, there are no guarantees that we won’t be hurt in relationships. It is a chance that we all take. I do not know what to say anymore and do. I have sacrificed alot for my partner, and maybe he didnt notice that. Anyways, the truth will prevails eventually. People can just say "move on" but.. it is so much easier said than done.
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2 comments:
if that's the case you're telling, then it's even not a white lie at all. unless you really have feelings for the other guy. i feel really sad to see that your partner doesnt have enough trust for you. at the end, you're only a human and can make mistakes. the challenge for your partner is to accept you as who you are and not for what you have to become for him. if it's the latter case, i dont see why you should bother.
hallo!!
Yeah.. i totally agreed with you.. ok, its not a white lie. its just a pure innocent dinner meeting. nothing else.. but i lied because i don wanna my partner to feel uneasy etc... ok, i m at fault for lying but my intentions is good. i mean, it got all misconstrued.. yeah..
danke for ur advise mate... take cr!
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