Hmmmm..... Is the first cut the deepest? The first love of your life, the first heartbreak, the first time being rejected? Everyone has to go though it. The first cut into your heart. It's a known fact that everyone is going to get their heart broken at some point in their life. It's a harsh fact to deal with because no one really wants to be heartbroken right?
A girl and a boy can fall in love but, what happens when all the slushy things like holding hands, hugging, and candle lit dinners end? This is where it gets heart breaking. So is the first cut really the deepest? Well I can only say that your first love, your first kiss, will always be with that special someone in your heart. Even if you have broken up, you will become stronger as a person and be able to face the next lucky person to walk into your life. Just my 2 cents...
Friday, July 31, 2009
Wednesday, July 29, 2009
materialistic world?
Truth be told, I don’t live the simplest of lifestyles. But I don’t place a lot of importance on the material stuff that I do have; I’m not attached to it. I can enjoy it when it’s here, and yet not mourn over it if ever goes. I think it’s perfectly fine to live in abundance - so long as we don’t define ourselves by the abundance in which we live.
Many of us secretly believe that we’d be happier if we made more money. I can guarantee otherwise: If you’re miserable poor, you’ll be miserable rich. Perhaps even more miserable. Your base level of happiness isn’t determined by the wealth you’re able to amass or the amount of “things” you’re able to collect.
At best, material things can give us a temporary high. It’s like taking a drug. But the high is always short and the crash is always hard as we return back to our base level of happiness. Moreover, true happiness can’t be dependent on anything outside of us as the entire world is transient and changing. If you base your happiness on something that is bound to change, you’ll live your life in fear of losing it.To truly be happier, I think each of us must follow our heart.
Thursday, July 23, 2009
All for one, one for all
I know someone who graduated from one of the TOP 10 universities in the world, and she thinks she is all that and a bag of chips because of this fact. She can't get THE job she wants after trying for over 2 months to get a job. So, obviously, where one gets a degree means nothing, necessarily. She turned down 2 jobs because she thinks she is too good for them, and yet complains on facebook about having no job.
I know a lot of people who want to get into good universities, have a false sense in believing that these universities will get them a good job. Sometimes they do, but often times they don't. I read a article once saying that it doesn't matter where one goes to school, because most will start out with the same salary caps, and it doesn't matter if that person went to MIT, Havard, Oxford.
I think going to whatever school should never give you a sense of entitlement. Good jobs go to good, hardworking people, not self-obsessed bubbleheads who are too in love with the coat of arms on their degree to realize they're not the center of the universe.
However, in retrospect, going to a good school does improve your chances of getting employed, simply because employers know students coming out of those schools have well-developed skill sets that they can utilize right away. Hmmm.. Am i contradicting? hahahaa!
I know a lot of people who want to get into good universities, have a false sense in believing that these universities will get them a good job. Sometimes they do, but often times they don't. I read a article once saying that it doesn't matter where one goes to school, because most will start out with the same salary caps, and it doesn't matter if that person went to MIT, Havard, Oxford.
I think going to whatever school should never give you a sense of entitlement. Good jobs go to good, hardworking people, not self-obsessed bubbleheads who are too in love with the coat of arms on their degree to realize they're not the center of the universe.
However, in retrospect, going to a good school does improve your chances of getting employed, simply because employers know students coming out of those schools have well-developed skill sets that they can utilize right away. Hmmm.. Am i contradicting? hahahaa!
Monday, July 20, 2009
Branded goods
I am beginning to think people view their clothes as an extension of themselves and their personality - so if they buy expensive, branded clothes, they think others will reflect on their choice as the individual being of high value.
Designer clothes with obvious logo's emblazoned across them come across as tacky and trashy, but people will buy them as they think that the more obvious the designer, the more people will look at them and think 'wow, classy' when in reality it's normally 'urgh, chavvy'. Quite often the people who buy obvious designer products are lacking in imagination and have more money than sense - it takes creativity to throw together a unique and stylish streetwear outfit that looks pricey.
To be fair, a lot of people buy branded goods for their quality, reputation and sometimes unique style. But mostly it all boils down to 'mine cost more so it's better than yours' and the ego behind it. I base my purchases on design, value, and functionality, and if that is why someone chooses to buy a branded item then that's fair enough. People who aspire to be more celebrity-like often buy branded clothing for the sake of it (and lack of imagination/or style), whereas the celebrity buys it because money is no option to them - therefore the more expensive, the better.
Don u think so?
Designer clothes with obvious logo's emblazoned across them come across as tacky and trashy, but people will buy them as they think that the more obvious the designer, the more people will look at them and think 'wow, classy' when in reality it's normally 'urgh, chavvy'. Quite often the people who buy obvious designer products are lacking in imagination and have more money than sense - it takes creativity to throw together a unique and stylish streetwear outfit that looks pricey.
To be fair, a lot of people buy branded goods for their quality, reputation and sometimes unique style. But mostly it all boils down to 'mine cost more so it's better than yours' and the ego behind it. I base my purchases on design, value, and functionality, and if that is why someone chooses to buy a branded item then that's fair enough. People who aspire to be more celebrity-like often buy branded clothing for the sake of it (and lack of imagination/or style), whereas the celebrity buys it because money is no option to them - therefore the more expensive, the better.
Don u think so?
Saturday, July 18, 2009
Casual sex
A friend of mine asked me the other day:
"Does having casual sex, without being a relationship with someone mean that you don't respect yourself?"
Well, i would say that it's a stereotype. Women are sluts and men are players. I can't really answer her because it's really one of those double standards set by society. I personally think that you should at least stick to one person. There are diseases out there...but hey that's your call not mine.
Causal sex can denote a self esteem problem, however, that is not always the case. Again, it's one of those things that has to be addressed on an individual basis. Some girls with low self esteem give it up for free b/c it makes them feel needed/wanted/attractive. As long as you understand your motive for doing this, then you should be fine. It's those people who convince themselves that they are doing this for another purpose that have serious problems.
As for why men think women lack self respect if they have sex without commitment, its b/c men are use to playing the 'game'. Most men say they want sex...but most will never marry a girl who gives it up easily. When most men think of a wife, they think of a wholesome individual to mother their children, someone respectable - not someone who's been around the block. These men will not respect you, hence they assume that you don't respect yourself. I'm not sure how else to explain it.
Overall, I think that its disgusting, giving your body to someone who is just using it for their selfish pleasure and who doesn't give two sh*ts about you. I don't look down on them, I'm just disappointed by them because I know that they're not truly happy with themselves.
Hmmm...
"Does having casual sex, without being a relationship with someone mean that you don't respect yourself?"
Well, i would say that it's a stereotype. Women are sluts and men are players. I can't really answer her because it's really one of those double standards set by society. I personally think that you should at least stick to one person. There are diseases out there...but hey that's your call not mine.
Causal sex can denote a self esteem problem, however, that is not always the case. Again, it's one of those things that has to be addressed on an individual basis. Some girls with low self esteem give it up for free b/c it makes them feel needed/wanted/attractive. As long as you understand your motive for doing this, then you should be fine. It's those people who convince themselves that they are doing this for another purpose that have serious problems.
As for why men think women lack self respect if they have sex without commitment, its b/c men are use to playing the 'game'. Most men say they want sex...but most will never marry a girl who gives it up easily. When most men think of a wife, they think of a wholesome individual to mother their children, someone respectable - not someone who's been around the block. These men will not respect you, hence they assume that you don't respect yourself. I'm not sure how else to explain it.
Overall, I think that its disgusting, giving your body to someone who is just using it for their selfish pleasure and who doesn't give two sh*ts about you. I don't look down on them, I'm just disappointed by them because I know that they're not truly happy with themselves.
Hmmm...
Thursday, July 16, 2009
Halo
I listened to Beyonce's " HALO" recently and i swear to God, i really love the song. It has a very deep deep meaning. I reckon not many can interpret the message behind the lyrics of this song but in my opinion, it's not about God - although I would've loved it to be about Him - and if it relates to you in that way, then take it as such.
This is a girl (or guy) who has been hurt enough to build walls around him/her. She/he doesn't trust her relationships, so when this person meets this "someone" - she/he is very "cautious" at first.
This person even tries to "test" this person to see if they are for real.
Its like Ive been awakened
Every rule I had you breakin
Its the risk that im takin
You know how sometimes people do that "game" to test others to see if they're really sincere. Trust issue. Perhaps Beyonce's character pushed this guy over the edge to see if he would still be committed? Sometimes that's risky - because you don't know if they'll stay committed, but she tested him because she simply had to know for sure. It's a foolish way to be secure, but that's what it meant.
However, this person came to some point in his/her life and they are convince that this special "someone" is indeed the real thing! And the "halo" revelation is that she finally sees that he's a good man! Thus, in the first verse, all her guard is let down without a fight, she trust him.
So with that understanding, I think the rest is self explanatory. :)
Good job Beyonce! Love ya!
If you think my interpretaion is wrong, pls correct me. :)
This is a girl (or guy) who has been hurt enough to build walls around him/her. She/he doesn't trust her relationships, so when this person meets this "someone" - she/he is very "cautious" at first.
This person even tries to "test" this person to see if they are for real.
Its like Ive been awakened
Every rule I had you breakin
Its the risk that im takin
You know how sometimes people do that "game" to test others to see if they're really sincere. Trust issue. Perhaps Beyonce's character pushed this guy over the edge to see if he would still be committed? Sometimes that's risky - because you don't know if they'll stay committed, but she tested him because she simply had to know for sure. It's a foolish way to be secure, but that's what it meant.
However, this person came to some point in his/her life and they are convince that this special "someone" is indeed the real thing! And the "halo" revelation is that she finally sees that he's a good man! Thus, in the first verse, all her guard is let down without a fight, she trust him.
So with that understanding, I think the rest is self explanatory. :)
Good job Beyonce! Love ya!
If you think my interpretaion is wrong, pls correct me. :)
Wednesday, July 15, 2009
Sex
Over the years and months I've realized, as I've seen the relationships of close friends fail time and again, that good, solid, long term relationships are not based on sex; in fact, it's those relationships that are heavily based on sex that usually don't wind up making it for very long. That's because that while sex is an important part of a relationship, in the end it's how you navigate the bad times that really define how strong your relationship is.
Too many people are willing to bail when bad times happen because it's easy to fix with a legal procedure and piece of paper, and sex is readily available elsewhere. In fact, over time if your relationship is based heavily on sex, the boredom factor alone tends to lead people to cheat or split up, because they have no other solid foundation.
In my opinion, sex is an important part of a relationship but if it is or becomes the most important aspect then there is no ''real'' relationship. It can be the ultimate expression of love between two people, a way to communicate feelings that are difficult to express in words. Sex helps build closeness and intimacy, relieves stress, gives comfort. Sex differentiates a romantic relationship from a platonic relationship.
Too many people are willing to bail when bad times happen because it's easy to fix with a legal procedure and piece of paper, and sex is readily available elsewhere. In fact, over time if your relationship is based heavily on sex, the boredom factor alone tends to lead people to cheat or split up, because they have no other solid foundation.
In my opinion, sex is an important part of a relationship but if it is or becomes the most important aspect then there is no ''real'' relationship. It can be the ultimate expression of love between two people, a way to communicate feelings that are difficult to express in words. Sex helps build closeness and intimacy, relieves stress, gives comfort. Sex differentiates a romantic relationship from a platonic relationship.
Love and sex are not the same thing; this is something some people never learn. Sex without love is just physical. Love without sex can be pure, spiritual and true. But sex with someone you love unequivocally, can be gentle and tender, hot and wild, comfortable or simply sublime.
And don't ever forget that the most important sexual organ is the brain. So, the next time, you don't get enough sex from your partner, heed my advice. Sex is not everything in a relationship. Nup, i am not complaining if i don't get enough sex from my partner. :)
Saturday, April 4, 2009
Fixing a broken heart
Sometimes, I don't understand life. . . especially my life. Why do i always end up feeling sad, heartbroken. What have i done to deserve all these? No one understands or knows what i went thru all these years. I dont mean to whinge here.
I've realized that love is never be a part of my fate. Today i had a bad day. In fact, i feel utterly dissapointed with that kind of attitude. Excuse me as I wipe the tears from my face and attempt to catch my breath . . . I feel as if I've been punched. Do you really doubt me, my love?
No relationship is a failure, a waste of time & love. Each relationship in its own right shows us more & more of who we are and that's a magical discovery. I made up my mind to not think about it any more tonight... to let it go.
I've realized that love is never be a part of my fate. Today i had a bad day. In fact, i feel utterly dissapointed with that kind of attitude. Excuse me as I wipe the tears from my face and attempt to catch my breath . . . I feel as if I've been punched. Do you really doubt me, my love?
No relationship is a failure, a waste of time & love. Each relationship in its own right shows us more & more of who we are and that's a magical discovery. I made up my mind to not think about it any more tonight... to let it go.
Wednesday, March 25, 2009
25 Mar 2009
I have been misunderstood perhaps more than anyone else ever, but it has not affected me, for the simple reason that there is no desire to be understood. It is their problem if they don't understand, it is not my problem. If they misunderstand, it is their problem and their misery. I am not going to waste my sleep because millions of people are misunderstanding me.
Wednesday, March 18, 2009
Hardest words, not?
A lot of people have a hard time just saying the word "sorry" even if it's obviously their fault. Now, imagine if it wasn't your fault, would you be able to say "sorry"? Would you apologize for something even if it meant swallowing your pride? Or would you let err... "nature" run its course?
People who do apologize say that they do so because they just want the "fight" to be over and done with. Not apologizing would drag the fight longer. As for me, I would not hesitate in apologising even if it was not my fault, if it meant that i could end an argument, fight or even get rid of some element of doubt or mistrust. If that relationship mean a lot to me, I will never let it go. In that case I don't mind saying sorry.
People who do apologize say that they do so because they just want the "fight" to be over and done with. Not apologizing would drag the fight longer. As for me, I would not hesitate in apologising even if it was not my fault, if it meant that i could end an argument, fight or even get rid of some element of doubt or mistrust. If that relationship mean a lot to me, I will never let it go. In that case I don't mind saying sorry.
Tuesday, March 17, 2009
Words that can kill
How often that there are certain thoughts that you would like to bring across, yet unable to do so due to certain circumstances? How often you hold back saying out your thoughts for the fear of affecting the other party? How often thoughts are being hold back from being saying out loud?How often thoughts are being kept inside because of the lacking of the appropriate words to use?
I had been in those situations too many times... Too many times, I hold back a lot of stuff that I wanted to share... For the fear of affecting others... Especially the fear of hurting them with my words...
I had been in those situations too many times... Too many times, I hold back a lot of stuff that I wanted to share... For the fear of affecting others... Especially the fear of hurting them with my words...
Saturday, February 28, 2009
The fateful night
Last night I was pretty angry and sad. So angry, in fact, that my hands are shaking.
What are the things that make me angry? Not just irritated, but actually angry. My blog has been made available to people who know me so I won’t go into details. Suffice it to say: I’m angry. Although, writing this is starting to have a calming effect on me.
How much anger is acceptable? And what actions resulting from anger are acceptable? For example, I do not believe that my anger excuses me to start yelling and hurling abuse at people. But do I instead keep my feelings completely to myself? Am I supposed to be a doormat? I don’t think so.
But what if my anger is actually rooted in selfishness? Just because someone has acted in a way that does not match up to my values, does that make me right and the other person wrong?
The thing I am most wary of is that if we do not deal with anger effectively it can morph into resentment, and that is never good.
What are the things that make me angry? Not just irritated, but actually angry. My blog has been made available to people who know me so I won’t go into details. Suffice it to say: I’m angry. Although, writing this is starting to have a calming effect on me.
How much anger is acceptable? And what actions resulting from anger are acceptable? For example, I do not believe that my anger excuses me to start yelling and hurling abuse at people. But do I instead keep my feelings completely to myself? Am I supposed to be a doormat? I don’t think so.
But what if my anger is actually rooted in selfishness? Just because someone has acted in a way that does not match up to my values, does that make me right and the other person wrong?
The thing I am most wary of is that if we do not deal with anger effectively it can morph into resentment, and that is never good.
Wednesday, February 25, 2009
jealousy?
Oh I was thinking about how silly jealousy is. Jealousy, like worrying, is a symptom of insanity. If you really and truly love someone, then the idea of them leaving you isn’t scary. If you truly love someone, then you want their happiness. If their happiness isn’t with you, then you must accept it. You don’t have to be happy or excited about it, but you must be at peace with it.
So many people get jealous and worry that their partner is going to leave them for someone else. But, if you love your partner, and they would be happier with someone else, wouldn’t you want them to experience that? Would you rather your partner be less happy, and stay with you? Would you want to hold your partner captive against their will? A relationship like that isn’t about the other person–it is about you. And a relationship that is about you, isn’t a relationship at all. It’s not love. It’s using someone. It is self-serving. It is the anti-love.
And that’s how I feel about jealousy.
So many people get jealous and worry that their partner is going to leave them for someone else. But, if you love your partner, and they would be happier with someone else, wouldn’t you want them to experience that? Would you rather your partner be less happy, and stay with you? Would you want to hold your partner captive against their will? A relationship like that isn’t about the other person–it is about you. And a relationship that is about you, isn’t a relationship at all. It’s not love. It’s using someone. It is self-serving. It is the anti-love.
And that’s how I feel about jealousy.
Monday, February 23, 2009
24th Feb 2009
I think pain and pleasure are flip sides of the same coin. Whenever there is pleasure, pain is lurking. The line is so thin. Love and hate are the same way. Just look at relationships. Look how quickly a loving relationship can become hateful. Really, there is no duality. Pain can not exist without pleasure, or light without dark.
There is only one.
And really, we create pain and pleasure in our minds. They aren’t real. There is only one reality, and that is love.
There is only one.
And really, we create pain and pleasure in our minds. They aren’t real. There is only one reality, and that is love.
Sunday, February 22, 2009
Do u wanna know?
I received a question from a fren on FB and he posed me this question:
Would you want to know the date of the day on which you’ll die?
As for me, I tend to look at in two ways. Bad and Good.
I would say yes, simply because if I knew when I was going to die I would most likely look at my life in a whole different sense. Actually I know i would. I mean come on someone says your going to die on lets say Oct 5th,2009. You would just be like "Whoaaaa…stop the train." and just think about stuff and I think it would really make someone look at their motives, ambitions, and goals in a whole new light. I think they would really look deep down to it and think about what is most important to them and I think that they would do whatever it took to reach it.
And I would say No, because I honestly dont want to know when I am going to die. I feel that I am doing the most i can with my life and the time i have been given. And lets be serious, life is not handed to you, it is a priviledge in my eyes. And I think that if you really do charish life you will do the best you can and you will strive for what you want out of life. Because I know I would be leaving so much and so many people behind whom I love and care deeply for, and it would break my heart.
Some other people however, would want to know so they could cherish their time with them, and i mean i guess in a sense i would too you know. But for me, im fine and content living my life day to day, to the fullest extent possible. And i will keep doing so, and if the time comes when i die, then it happens. Its life, you lose people and gain people everyday, you just have to make the choice to strive in whatever u do no matter what.
Thanks for the question! It was a good! I reckon one of the greatest mistakes we make in life is to focus on our losses and forget that we gained something in the first place. There are no guarantees in this life. The only certainty is the good fortune we’ve had in just being born.
Would you want to know the date of the day on which you’ll die?
As for me, I tend to look at in two ways. Bad and Good.
I would say yes, simply because if I knew when I was going to die I would most likely look at my life in a whole different sense. Actually I know i would. I mean come on someone says your going to die on lets say Oct 5th,2009. You would just be like "Whoaaaa…stop the train." and just think about stuff and I think it would really make someone look at their motives, ambitions, and goals in a whole new light. I think they would really look deep down to it and think about what is most important to them and I think that they would do whatever it took to reach it.
And I would say No, because I honestly dont want to know when I am going to die. I feel that I am doing the most i can with my life and the time i have been given. And lets be serious, life is not handed to you, it is a priviledge in my eyes. And I think that if you really do charish life you will do the best you can and you will strive for what you want out of life. Because I know I would be leaving so much and so many people behind whom I love and care deeply for, and it would break my heart.
Some other people however, would want to know so they could cherish their time with them, and i mean i guess in a sense i would too you know. But for me, im fine and content living my life day to day, to the fullest extent possible. And i will keep doing so, and if the time comes when i die, then it happens. Its life, you lose people and gain people everyday, you just have to make the choice to strive in whatever u do no matter what.
Thanks for the question! It was a good! I reckon one of the greatest mistakes we make in life is to focus on our losses and forget that we gained something in the first place. There are no guarantees in this life. The only certainty is the good fortune we’ve had in just being born.
Thursday, February 19, 2009
Real happiness
Are you happy? Why?
Because you got a nice gift? Because you’re with family? Because you have a boyfriend/girlfriend?
Well, then you’re actually miserable. If the source of your happiness can be taken away, you’re not really happy. And of course, when I say happiness I don’t mean a smile on your face. I mean a deeper, inner happiness. A sense of peace with life.
If you’re happy for a reason, that reason can be taken away. Your gift could break. Your family could die. Your partner may leave you. True happiness isn’t based on externals. It comes from within.
Dig deep. Let’s be happy not because.
Because you got a nice gift? Because you’re with family? Because you have a boyfriend/girlfriend?
Well, then you’re actually miserable. If the source of your happiness can be taken away, you’re not really happy. And of course, when I say happiness I don’t mean a smile on your face. I mean a deeper, inner happiness. A sense of peace with life.
If you’re happy for a reason, that reason can be taken away. Your gift could break. Your family could die. Your partner may leave you. True happiness isn’t based on externals. It comes from within.
Dig deep. Let’s be happy not because.
Sunday, February 15, 2009
Relationships
In our lives, we have many relationships. We have relationships with our signficant other(s). We have relationships with family members and friends. Ex-boyfriends and girlfriends. Coworkers and bosses. Neighbours. Facebook friends. We even have a relationship with our job. Our gym membership. In a nutshell, it’s relationships galore.
Some of those relationships are fulfilling; they inspire us to be the best version of our self and to live a meaningful life. And some of these relationships are un-fulfilling; they’re toxic. When we cultivate these relationships, we cultivate feelings of discomfort or even anger in our lives. These relationships are not conducive to a meaningful life.
It’s time to be honest with ourselves and identify the toxicity in our lives. It’s difficult to be honest when the toxicity comes from someone close, especially a boyfriend or girlfriend or partner.
I still remb when i m in high school, my teacher would tell us that the people around us are like food. Some people are allergic to tomatoes. It doesn’t make tomatoes bad - they’re just not for you. Likewise, some people are allergic to other people. It doesn’t make those other people bad or any less beautiful - it just means that they aren’t for you.
Without judgement, we can identify our toxic relationships. It takes two to tango, and no relationship can survive without your participation in it.
Some of those relationships are fulfilling; they inspire us to be the best version of our self and to live a meaningful life. And some of these relationships are un-fulfilling; they’re toxic. When we cultivate these relationships, we cultivate feelings of discomfort or even anger in our lives. These relationships are not conducive to a meaningful life.
It’s time to be honest with ourselves and identify the toxicity in our lives. It’s difficult to be honest when the toxicity comes from someone close, especially a boyfriend or girlfriend or partner.
I still remb when i m in high school, my teacher would tell us that the people around us are like food. Some people are allergic to tomatoes. It doesn’t make tomatoes bad - they’re just not for you. Likewise, some people are allergic to other people. It doesn’t make those other people bad or any less beautiful - it just means that they aren’t for you.
Without judgement, we can identify our toxic relationships. It takes two to tango, and no relationship can survive without your participation in it.
Tuesday, February 10, 2009
hmmm
Accusations, whether they’re accurate or not, happen all the time. Once in a while, they happen to us. I am not an exceptional here. They're wrong and I can look myself in the mirror knowing the truth.
Who I am and what I do, that will win out in time. I know it's normal to feel a twinge of guilt even if you're completely innocent. We always hear about guilt by association. But there is also guilt by accusation. People hear something negative and tend to believe it. If you accuse a person unfairly, he/she still has that twinge — just from having the finger pointed at him/her.
The hardest part might just be picking up the pieces of your shattered sense of self-worth.
Who I am and what I do, that will win out in time. I know it's normal to feel a twinge of guilt even if you're completely innocent. We always hear about guilt by association. But there is also guilt by accusation. People hear something negative and tend to believe it. If you accuse a person unfairly, he/she still has that twinge — just from having the finger pointed at him/her.
The hardest part might just be picking up the pieces of your shattered sense of self-worth.
Wednesday, February 4, 2009
Only you
I have had a few occasions recently that I have heard people blame their life’s problems on other people. Many people hold on to bitterness gained in their childhood. They blame their parents for everything that has happened in their lives. But really once you are an adult, you can make your own choices. No one is holding you to the behaviors of your parents anymore. I hate it when people excuse their behavior by blaming their parents.
I know a fren who struggles financially and he blames the state of his finances on his parents. He is forever whinging with his $. When i asked him why is this happening and his reply is: “They never taught me how to manage money”. This man didn’t have the best parents in the world, but he had everything given to him. He had nice clothes, a nice home, cars bought for him. Yet he still blames his parents for his failings in life? Geez! How could that be?
I'm not gonna talk about my parents, and all i can say is that i don’t want to be a carbon copy of my father, or my mother. That idea just depresses me. We do get to choose. We can choose to be happy. We can choose to get out of the cycle, stagnation of our lives and do better. Attitude is a big part of it. Because in the end, the only person you have to blame or congratulate for your life is you!
I know a fren who struggles financially and he blames the state of his finances on his parents. He is forever whinging with his $. When i asked him why is this happening and his reply is: “They never taught me how to manage money”. This man didn’t have the best parents in the world, but he had everything given to him. He had nice clothes, a nice home, cars bought for him. Yet he still blames his parents for his failings in life? Geez! How could that be?
I'm not gonna talk about my parents, and all i can say is that i don’t want to be a carbon copy of my father, or my mother. That idea just depresses me. We do get to choose. We can choose to be happy. We can choose to get out of the cycle, stagnation of our lives and do better. Attitude is a big part of it. Because in the end, the only person you have to blame or congratulate for your life is you!
Monday, February 2, 2009
Looking things in a different perspective
The labels of "God" don’t resonate with me - it’s neither good nor bad, it’s just not my path to truth. However, i believed that one of God’s greatest gifts are unanswered prayers." It resonated with me.
I’ve always wondered what the pious masses thought about unanswered prayers. There are many times in life when things don’t go our way. I really, really wanted a job that I wanted when I graduated. From a pool of god knows how many applicants, I was one of three candidates for the job. Nup,I didn’t get it. And was crushed.
Looking back, I realize that my unanswered prayer (though I’d never call it a prayer) was, in fact, a great gift from the universe. If I had been given the job, I’d not be where I am today, doing what I love so much. The universe had much bigger plans for me. And though I was unable to see it in the moment, not getting the job was a gift.
Things don’t always go the way we think they should go. Shit happens, right? It’s never easy to lose a loved one, get fired from a job or be diagnosed with an illness or disease. But as we expand and widen our perspective, we can learn to see the beauty (yes, beauty) in each of our challenges or hardships. Maybe the gift is dissolving fear. Or understanding death. Or finding a new career path, or anything else, ya know..
I’ve always wondered what the pious masses thought about unanswered prayers. There are many times in life when things don’t go our way. I really, really wanted a job that I wanted when I graduated. From a pool of god knows how many applicants, I was one of three candidates for the job. Nup,I didn’t get it. And was crushed.
Looking back, I realize that my unanswered prayer (though I’d never call it a prayer) was, in fact, a great gift from the universe. If I had been given the job, I’d not be where I am today, doing what I love so much. The universe had much bigger plans for me. And though I was unable to see it in the moment, not getting the job was a gift.
Things don’t always go the way we think they should go. Shit happens, right? It’s never easy to lose a loved one, get fired from a job or be diagnosed with an illness or disease. But as we expand and widen our perspective, we can learn to see the beauty (yes, beauty) in each of our challenges or hardships. Maybe the gift is dissolving fear. Or understanding death. Or finding a new career path, or anything else, ya know..
