Only you

I have had a few occasions recently that I have heard people blame their life’s problems on other people. Many people hold on to bitterness gained in their childhood. They blame their parents for everything that has happened in their lives. But really once you are an adult, you can make your own choices. No one is holding you to the behaviors of your parents anymore. I hate it when people excuse their behavior by blaming their parents.

I know a fren who struggles financially and he blames the state of his finances on his parents. He is forever whinging with his $. When i asked him why is this happening and his reply is: “They never taught me how to manage money”. This man didn’t have the best parents in the world, but he had everything given to him. He had nice clothes, a nice home, cars bought for him. Yet he still blames his parents for his failings in life? Geez! How could that be?

I'm not gonna talk about my parents, and all i can say is that i don’t want to be a carbon copy of my father, or my mother. That idea just depresses me. We do get to choose. We can choose to be happy. We can choose to get out of the cycle, stagnation of our lives and do better. Attitude is a big part of it. Because in the end, the only person you have to blame or congratulate for your life is you!