L.O.V.E

I don’t know if I love you… Nor do I know what love is…

But… if love means dreaming of the person every night and doing the same thing when you’re awake, then I guess, this is love. If love means looking every where and every li’l thing seems to remind you of the person, then maybe, this is love. If love means dying to be with someone for every single second of your life, then, this could be love. If love means having to accept the person for who he is and who he’s not, then I believe, I’m in love. If love means being happy just to hear his voice or being complete when you know he calls, then, I’m in love. If love means losing my pride just to tell him what I feel, then, this could really be love.

And if love means hating the person for everything about him, yet deep inside you’re still longing to touch him, hear something about him, see him, or have a glimpse of his picture, talk to him, care for him, hug him, and kiss him, then . . . . dats true love

Its not the end

I know it is never easy when any marriage or relationship ends for whatever reason the split is whether you wanted it or not. Breaking up from a long term relationship can turn your world upside-down and gives you so much heartache.


Even when the relationship no longer good where it is probably full with resentment, disappointment and shattered dreams, yet when the relationship ends it still do hurt so much. When relationship ends, it disrupted our routines and responsibilities, and introduces uncertainties into our life.

Questions such as “what will be life without him/her?”, “will i find someone else?”, “will i end upbeing alone?”. These questions often seem worse than an unhappy relationship, thus people tend to stick with unhappy relationship due to fear.

Personally to me, ending a relationship is just the same as losing one part of your life such as the loss of companionship, support, hopes, dreams and plans. Thus, I find that either, I ended the relationship or my partner ended it, we are suppose to GRIEVE our losses. Mourn it!

I think it is a normal thing to feel sad, angry, confused and loss when the relationship ends. It will last as long as it takes but will lessen in time. We might feel frightened the most as we feel that we’ve lost everything in our life, we have nothing and that we do not know what to do next.

I believe that all the above are just part and parcel of the process of healing from break up. It is a normal cycle that one needs to go through before one able to moves on. It will be the hardest journey to heal one’s heart but once when it did, one will turn much wiser than before. Thats what i felt anyways..

Whats your choice??

When a person was betrayed under the spell of love, one will be suffering in a total anguish and one may get too depress over such pain, regardless which gender. Some may go through the thoughts of committing suicide when such drastic change happened, such as losing the other half of his/her life. However, those who are strong enough to stand up again will understand that what don’t break them will make them stronger.

The thing is after going through the entire break up cycle and having their ex asking for a chance back is something that I find totally disturbing. Why? Well, the first thing that came into my mind was, your bf/gf is not a “thing” to have and dump just like that. I wonder why one didn’t try or do their best to care and appreciate what they have but yet when one realized what they’ve lost, then they wanted it back.

Either way, the decision is going to be hard. But one thing is for sure, if you do go back into the relationship, you will be going back into a relationship that is cracked in a way, it''s not the same as before anymore. Even if its patched, there's gonna be lots of scratches and the trust is no longer there. And then, the pain will be tat much more.

Just my 2 cents..

Volunteer Day

I started my very first volunteering work on 13th Nov with my fellow HP-ites and of cos my BFF, HN, Kiki and Hei Hei. It was part of President Star's Charity which HP have been offering their volunteer services without fail. This year, HP managed to rope in over 1000 employees to offer their volunteer services.

We were dispatched to various organisations from the elderly, orphanages, autism kids, just to name a few. As for my team, we went to a day care centre for the elderly and people with dementia. Many precautions and care has to be taken especially we are dealing with elderly. Some of them need some physical assistance and some of them are wheel chaired bound. However most of them are very healthy and could walk on their own.

Our job as a volunteer there was to take good care of the old folks, entertain them,,talk to them, understand them and most importantly spend an enjoyable day with them. Did i mention, we also conduct games with them? Yeah! It was very entertaining and I can see their happy expressions.. One of the challenges is that, we have to communicate in dialects which is not my forte at all! hahahaha! I have always wanted to be a volunteer for some community work. I happened to get an email asking for help about this volunteering work and that was how we began.

Really very happy doing community work especially when you see them happy,you will feel happy too. After you volunteer your service, you feel happy because you have done something good; you feel useful because you can help others; you feel confident in yourself because you have the ability to contribute to the good of society. The feeling of happiness, of being useful, and of self-confidence has already broadened our vision.

Being a volunteer expands our vision by allowing us to transcend ourselves as receivers and become givers; we go from being a burden on society to being a positive force in society. Before we volunteered, we might not have known that being a volunteer could make our existence so meaningful and fulfilling. Being a volunteer makes me feel happy, useful, and confident and an eye opener too!

Thanks for giving me the chance!

Dope song

what ever you like
what ever you lik
what ever you li
what ever you l
what ever yo
what ever y
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the biggest "winner"?

Nobody wants a breakup if in the first place they are out to built a relationship. And "calling it off" during a quarrel or argument doesn't win a situation but sore it further. Ppl get carried away during a quarrel. Knowing that they're in the upper hand, 'breaking up' would be a good way of threatening the other party to back off n not argue further. But little do they know that it's a selfish act that cause hurts to the other party. Making them feel so unappreciated and the r/s seems like nothing to the person who initiate the breakup.

Yes, I used to be the childish person who wanted a breakup everytime there's a quarrel. I know I will win. Whatever wrong I done, I'll still win. On the surface I did won. But I lose more than I won. I lost my bf confidence, I lost my own conscience, I lost any lesson that came along, most of all, I lost to myself. Not being able to face my own mistakes, acting like a coward and initiate the breakup.

I remember hearing this from someone, ' you might win from the argument, but ask yourself, you think you're the one who ultimately win? In actual fact, you lost, because you fight your way through to fight for your 'right', while the other partner give in to you, considering your feelings.

I know why some people have this false sense of glorification when they are the ones initiating breakups. Seems like at the end of the day, they are the real losers of the situation, losing their partners, as well as their confidence.

:(

Why would my boyfriend accused me of cheating? I honestly, would never cheat on him with another guy. We been dating for a year and I haven't ever been unfaithful to him. He accused me of cheating saying he has all the facts of what I did that involves cheating. Why is he acting like this? This is making me sad and hurt. I don't know what I should do.

Cliff, i never knew you would think i am playing games with you. You ended this relationship so easily. I have never cheated on you. And as you move on, I hope you will remember me, remember us and all we used to be. I've seen you cry, I've seen you smile. I´ll never forget you my lover, i hope you never forget me.

All the best to you.

12 September, 18.06:42

White lies- Is it OK to lie to a person we care about for a kind reason, like to make him feel better and more secure, or to avoid a fight. As long as our heart is in the right place, even experts say that honesty isn't always required. You don't have to tell the whole truth if it will hurt your partner or if it's something he can't change. At the same time, not all lies are harmless even little white ones and some untruths can tear apart a relationship by damaging intimacy and trust. The worst kinds of lies result from trying to change who we really are or to minimize a serious problem in a relationship.

I got to know a friend from Facebook with whom i sometimes communicate. My partner happened to see our interactions -- and didn't like what he saw. But I know my exchanges don't mean anything, so they're not worth discussing. And one day, he came over to Singapore for a holiday and he wanted to meet me up for dinner. I do not know how to tell my partner and I told my partner a white lie. I know its vital to be honest and truthful but I know my partner wont be able to handle it and at the same time, I do not want to make my partner sad.

And I have a lil apprehensive of meeting him for dinner because i need to find a bed for my grandma as she had fallen off from the bed and i need to get a new bed for her. But cant find one then decided to meet my fren for dinner. And because of that, he broke the relationship with me And said I am two timing him. Accusing that I love him and stuffs. Honest to god, i didnt have any sexual relationships with this guy. It was just a dinner meeting, dats all.. Being accused like this is not a nice feeling.

Unfortunately, there are no guarantees that we won’t be hurt in relationships. It is a chance that we all take. I do not know what to say anymore and do. I have sacrificed alot for my partner, and maybe he didnt notice that. Anyways, the truth will prevails eventually. People can just say "move on" but.. it is so much easier said than done.