Hmmmm..... Is the first cut the deepest? The first love of your life, the first heartbreak, the first time being rejected? Everyone has to go though it. The first cut into your heart. It's a known fact that everyone is going to get their heart broken at some point in their life. It's a harsh fact to deal with because no one really wants to be heartbroken right?
A girl and a boy can fall in love but, what happens when all the slushy things like holding hands, hugging, and candle lit dinners end? This is where it gets heart breaking. So is the first cut really the deepest? Well I can only say that your first love, your first kiss, will always be with that special someone in your heart. Even if you have broken up, you will become stronger as a person and be able to face the next lucky person to walk into your life. Just my 2 cents...
Friday, July 31, 2009
Wednesday, July 29, 2009
materialistic world?
Truth be told, I don’t live the simplest of lifestyles. But I don’t place a lot of importance on the material stuff that I do have; I’m not attached to it. I can enjoy it when it’s here, and yet not mourn over it if ever goes. I think it’s perfectly fine to live in abundance - so long as we don’t define ourselves by the abundance in which we live.
Many of us secretly believe that we’d be happier if we made more money. I can guarantee otherwise: If you’re miserable poor, you’ll be miserable rich. Perhaps even more miserable. Your base level of happiness isn’t determined by the wealth you’re able to amass or the amount of “things” you’re able to collect.
At best, material things can give us a temporary high. It’s like taking a drug. But the high is always short and the crash is always hard as we return back to our base level of happiness. Moreover, true happiness can’t be dependent on anything outside of us as the entire world is transient and changing. If you base your happiness on something that is bound to change, you’ll live your life in fear of losing it.To truly be happier, I think each of us must follow our heart.
Thursday, July 23, 2009
All for one, one for all
I know someone who graduated from one of the TOP 10 universities in the world, and she thinks she is all that and a bag of chips because of this fact. She can't get THE job she wants after trying for over 2 months to get a job. So, obviously, where one gets a degree means nothing, necessarily. She turned down 2 jobs because she thinks she is too good for them, and yet complains on facebook about having no job.
I know a lot of people who want to get into good universities, have a false sense in believing that these universities will get them a good job. Sometimes they do, but often times they don't. I read a article once saying that it doesn't matter where one goes to school, because most will start out with the same salary caps, and it doesn't matter if that person went to MIT, Havard, Oxford.
I think going to whatever school should never give you a sense of entitlement. Good jobs go to good, hardworking people, not self-obsessed bubbleheads who are too in love with the coat of arms on their degree to realize they're not the center of the universe.
However, in retrospect, going to a good school does improve your chances of getting employed, simply because employers know students coming out of those schools have well-developed skill sets that they can utilize right away. Hmmm.. Am i contradicting? hahahaa!
I know a lot of people who want to get into good universities, have a false sense in believing that these universities will get them a good job. Sometimes they do, but often times they don't. I read a article once saying that it doesn't matter where one goes to school, because most will start out with the same salary caps, and it doesn't matter if that person went to MIT, Havard, Oxford.
I think going to whatever school should never give you a sense of entitlement. Good jobs go to good, hardworking people, not self-obsessed bubbleheads who are too in love with the coat of arms on their degree to realize they're not the center of the universe.
However, in retrospect, going to a good school does improve your chances of getting employed, simply because employers know students coming out of those schools have well-developed skill sets that they can utilize right away. Hmmm.. Am i contradicting? hahahaa!
Monday, July 20, 2009
Branded goods
I am beginning to think people view their clothes as an extension of themselves and their personality - so if they buy expensive, branded clothes, they think others will reflect on their choice as the individual being of high value.
Designer clothes with obvious logo's emblazoned across them come across as tacky and trashy, but people will buy them as they think that the more obvious the designer, the more people will look at them and think 'wow, classy' when in reality it's normally 'urgh, chavvy'. Quite often the people who buy obvious designer products are lacking in imagination and have more money than sense - it takes creativity to throw together a unique and stylish streetwear outfit that looks pricey.
To be fair, a lot of people buy branded goods for their quality, reputation and sometimes unique style. But mostly it all boils down to 'mine cost more so it's better than yours' and the ego behind it. I base my purchases on design, value, and functionality, and if that is why someone chooses to buy a branded item then that's fair enough. People who aspire to be more celebrity-like often buy branded clothing for the sake of it (and lack of imagination/or style), whereas the celebrity buys it because money is no option to them - therefore the more expensive, the better.
Don u think so?
Designer clothes with obvious logo's emblazoned across them come across as tacky and trashy, but people will buy them as they think that the more obvious the designer, the more people will look at them and think 'wow, classy' when in reality it's normally 'urgh, chavvy'. Quite often the people who buy obvious designer products are lacking in imagination and have more money than sense - it takes creativity to throw together a unique and stylish streetwear outfit that looks pricey.
To be fair, a lot of people buy branded goods for their quality, reputation and sometimes unique style. But mostly it all boils down to 'mine cost more so it's better than yours' and the ego behind it. I base my purchases on design, value, and functionality, and if that is why someone chooses to buy a branded item then that's fair enough. People who aspire to be more celebrity-like often buy branded clothing for the sake of it (and lack of imagination/or style), whereas the celebrity buys it because money is no option to them - therefore the more expensive, the better.
Don u think so?
Saturday, July 18, 2009
Casual sex
A friend of mine asked me the other day:
"Does having casual sex, without being a relationship with someone mean that you don't respect yourself?"
Well, i would say that it's a stereotype. Women are sluts and men are players. I can't really answer her because it's really one of those double standards set by society. I personally think that you should at least stick to one person. There are diseases out there...but hey that's your call not mine.
Causal sex can denote a self esteem problem, however, that is not always the case. Again, it's one of those things that has to be addressed on an individual basis. Some girls with low self esteem give it up for free b/c it makes them feel needed/wanted/attractive. As long as you understand your motive for doing this, then you should be fine. It's those people who convince themselves that they are doing this for another purpose that have serious problems.
As for why men think women lack self respect if they have sex without commitment, its b/c men are use to playing the 'game'. Most men say they want sex...but most will never marry a girl who gives it up easily. When most men think of a wife, they think of a wholesome individual to mother their children, someone respectable - not someone who's been around the block. These men will not respect you, hence they assume that you don't respect yourself. I'm not sure how else to explain it.
Overall, I think that its disgusting, giving your body to someone who is just using it for their selfish pleasure and who doesn't give two sh*ts about you. I don't look down on them, I'm just disappointed by them because I know that they're not truly happy with themselves.
Hmmm...
"Does having casual sex, without being a relationship with someone mean that you don't respect yourself?"
Well, i would say that it's a stereotype. Women are sluts and men are players. I can't really answer her because it's really one of those double standards set by society. I personally think that you should at least stick to one person. There are diseases out there...but hey that's your call not mine.
Causal sex can denote a self esteem problem, however, that is not always the case. Again, it's one of those things that has to be addressed on an individual basis. Some girls with low self esteem give it up for free b/c it makes them feel needed/wanted/attractive. As long as you understand your motive for doing this, then you should be fine. It's those people who convince themselves that they are doing this for another purpose that have serious problems.
As for why men think women lack self respect if they have sex without commitment, its b/c men are use to playing the 'game'. Most men say they want sex...but most will never marry a girl who gives it up easily. When most men think of a wife, they think of a wholesome individual to mother their children, someone respectable - not someone who's been around the block. These men will not respect you, hence they assume that you don't respect yourself. I'm not sure how else to explain it.
Overall, I think that its disgusting, giving your body to someone who is just using it for their selfish pleasure and who doesn't give two sh*ts about you. I don't look down on them, I'm just disappointed by them because I know that they're not truly happy with themselves.
Hmmm...
Thursday, July 16, 2009
Halo
I listened to Beyonce's " HALO" recently and i swear to God, i really love the song. It has a very deep deep meaning. I reckon not many can interpret the message behind the lyrics of this song but in my opinion, it's not about God - although I would've loved it to be about Him - and if it relates to you in that way, then take it as such.
This is a girl (or guy) who has been hurt enough to build walls around him/her. She/he doesn't trust her relationships, so when this person meets this "someone" - she/he is very "cautious" at first.
This person even tries to "test" this person to see if they are for real.
Its like Ive been awakened
Every rule I had you breakin
Its the risk that im takin
You know how sometimes people do that "game" to test others to see if they're really sincere. Trust issue. Perhaps Beyonce's character pushed this guy over the edge to see if he would still be committed? Sometimes that's risky - because you don't know if they'll stay committed, but she tested him because she simply had to know for sure. It's a foolish way to be secure, but that's what it meant.
However, this person came to some point in his/her life and they are convince that this special "someone" is indeed the real thing! And the "halo" revelation is that she finally sees that he's a good man! Thus, in the first verse, all her guard is let down without a fight, she trust him.
So with that understanding, I think the rest is self explanatory. :)
Good job Beyonce! Love ya!
If you think my interpretaion is wrong, pls correct me. :)
This is a girl (or guy) who has been hurt enough to build walls around him/her. She/he doesn't trust her relationships, so when this person meets this "someone" - she/he is very "cautious" at first.
This person even tries to "test" this person to see if they are for real.
Its like Ive been awakened
Every rule I had you breakin
Its the risk that im takin
You know how sometimes people do that "game" to test others to see if they're really sincere. Trust issue. Perhaps Beyonce's character pushed this guy over the edge to see if he would still be committed? Sometimes that's risky - because you don't know if they'll stay committed, but she tested him because she simply had to know for sure. It's a foolish way to be secure, but that's what it meant.
However, this person came to some point in his/her life and they are convince that this special "someone" is indeed the real thing! And the "halo" revelation is that she finally sees that he's a good man! Thus, in the first verse, all her guard is let down without a fight, she trust him.
So with that understanding, I think the rest is self explanatory. :)
Good job Beyonce! Love ya!
If you think my interpretaion is wrong, pls correct me. :)
Wednesday, July 15, 2009
Sex
Over the years and months I've realized, as I've seen the relationships of close friends fail time and again, that good, solid, long term relationships are not based on sex; in fact, it's those relationships that are heavily based on sex that usually don't wind up making it for very long. That's because that while sex is an important part of a relationship, in the end it's how you navigate the bad times that really define how strong your relationship is.
Too many people are willing to bail when bad times happen because it's easy to fix with a legal procedure and piece of paper, and sex is readily available elsewhere. In fact, over time if your relationship is based heavily on sex, the boredom factor alone tends to lead people to cheat or split up, because they have no other solid foundation.
In my opinion, sex is an important part of a relationship but if it is or becomes the most important aspect then there is no ''real'' relationship. It can be the ultimate expression of love between two people, a way to communicate feelings that are difficult to express in words. Sex helps build closeness and intimacy, relieves stress, gives comfort. Sex differentiates a romantic relationship from a platonic relationship.
Too many people are willing to bail when bad times happen because it's easy to fix with a legal procedure and piece of paper, and sex is readily available elsewhere. In fact, over time if your relationship is based heavily on sex, the boredom factor alone tends to lead people to cheat or split up, because they have no other solid foundation.
In my opinion, sex is an important part of a relationship but if it is or becomes the most important aspect then there is no ''real'' relationship. It can be the ultimate expression of love between two people, a way to communicate feelings that are difficult to express in words. Sex helps build closeness and intimacy, relieves stress, gives comfort. Sex differentiates a romantic relationship from a platonic relationship.
Love and sex are not the same thing; this is something some people never learn. Sex without love is just physical. Love without sex can be pure, spiritual and true. But sex with someone you love unequivocally, can be gentle and tender, hot and wild, comfortable or simply sublime.
And don't ever forget that the most important sexual organ is the brain. So, the next time, you don't get enough sex from your partner, heed my advice. Sex is not everything in a relationship. Nup, i am not complaining if i don't get enough sex from my partner. :)
